Why am I feeling so guilty about something that I should be happy about?

I realise this is a very trivial problem compared to most on here BUT need your thoughts.


Hubby and I have saved hard for years to go on a holiday next year to celebrate our 20th anniversary and to renew our vows. So we booked to take ourselves and 2 sons to Maldives.


Since booking I feel absolutely overwhelmed with guilt at booking it and the amount of money it's costing. I feel guilty for spending that amount of money on a holiday.


Why am I feeling this way?|||you feel guilty and selfish, don't enjoy the time with your family.... stop thinking about our rotten economy, gas prices, food prices and college cost and rather or not your job will be there tomorrow... or if we will have enogh to make next months mortgage payment.. just stop.... live for today.... you should leave the kids home though.... if thier older that is they would have more fun home and you wouldn't have to worry that they are bored on "your" trip have fun|||most likely because you have spent time saving up for it. and if your not used the such lovely holidays then thats why you feel guilty.





Don't! hehe.


Enjoy it you will have a great time x|||Probably just because it is a lot of money... and with the economy these days, a lot of money is a lot of money. Just enjoy yourself.. :) |||it is like u feel u need to justify it for someone... who is this someone? the shadow of one of your parents probably





you earned this money and you want to spend it on a special occasion so that it brings you happiness and good memories. If you feel you may need this money for more urgent purposes then reconsider; you still have time. If there is nothing like that, then don't make this sense of guilt spoil the happiness; for then your money woul dbe spent in vain.





Try to talk with a therapist one conversation could make u feel much better.|||You should NOT be feeling guilty at all. You have both "saved hard for years" and so have earned your holiday. Go on, just go there and enjoy yourself.





But if those feelings of guilt continue then cancel the whole thing - or stay at home and let the others go without you: your guilt will just spoil it for everyone. |||stop worrying so much and go enjoy urself with ur family!!!!|||Don't feel guilty, feel excited! you have worked hard for the money you have saved and you deserve to spend it how you want. You probably feel anxious rather than guilty because you have spent such a long time saving the money and seeing it in your bank account and now it is gone - Don't feel this way, look forward to the holiday, it sounds great! well done for managing to save the money and I hope you really enjoy the holiday.|||Because all of your lives you and your husband have worked hard.Probably most of what you earned was ploughed back into your house and family.Now you've saved really hard and booked your holiday it probably doesn't feel right to you not to spend the money on the house and family.You are so used to doing one thing that it is ingrained in you that that is what you have to do,and you probably feel guilty at not doing that.


Now snap out of that mode ! You and your husband have obviously done a really good job up to now.It is time now to enjoy some well earned rest and to have some quality time with your family.You really deserve it and you probably haven't had a holiday like this for ages.Get rid of the guilt and go and have your holiday of a lifetime.That's the least you deserve.|||Perhaps because a holiday is viewed by society as a trivial, unnecessary luxury. I'm guessing that to save for the holiday you had to budget quite a bit. You had to prioritise what was really essential and not essential. You've spent years focusing on what is essential so that you had enough in your budget to pay for it-gas bills and the like and then save anything left over. You counted the Penny's and worked out how much will have to go on paying for food and how much will go to paying on bills. You put aside any thoughts of buying non essentials and luxuries. Suddenly your doing the opposite and spending a huge amount of money on something you haven't prioritised as essential. Furthermore you can't account exactly what this money is going to be used for. Before you knew exactly how much money was going on which items. Now your paying a large lump sum with out a detailed breakdown of where each penny or cent is going.





Well, that's what I think. I can tell you something else. Holidays are ESSENTIAL. You can't work and scrimp forever, your human. For the sake of you and your partners physical and mental health YOU NEED A HOLIDAY. |||After 20 years of marrige you DESERVE the Money you spend on it!





...have FUN and plenty of Nookie on the Maldives !





Enjoy !